A special moment of meditation & connection

interactive meditation connection

The practice I will be describing here is a hybrid, as it combines meditation and mindful connection. You do it with a friend or a small group of friends. In a relatively short amount of time, you can both go inside and feel connected with people.  

This page gives simple instructions on how you can set it up. You can also join us on Zoom to practice with us.


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This 55-minute gathering combines inner connection and connection with others. We sit in silence for 15 to 20 minutes, in touch with our inner experience. Then we share what came up, in a mindful way. All levels of experience (or inexperience) are welcome.

There will be some guidance, just a little, to make everybody comfortable with a new experience.

Hilary Bradbury and Serge Prengel will take turns facilitating this practice.

Free. You need to register on Zoom.


Here are some simple instructions to set up this practice with a friend or a small group.

It is very easy to set up. There is a short introduction (giving people a sense of what is ahead), a moment of mediation, and then, sharing in a meditative way. The rest of this article gives you a sense of the structure. There is a one-minute video describing what it feels like toward the end of this page.

You can download a PDF of this article


Introduction: 

We are making time now for a special moment of meditation and connection.

Essentially, what we’re doing is combining meditation (that is, going inside, connecting with our inner experience), and connection with other people.  

We’re going to start with just 15 minutes of meditation and then we’ll do the connection part. At that time, I will explain what we do for connection. Right now, let’s get ready for our 15 minutes of meditation. 

You can use any way of meditating that you’re accustomed to. If you’re not very familiar with meditation, think of it as some kind of a pause. A moment when you’re going inside, paying attention to inner experience. You’re especially paying attention to what happens in the body. Noticing thoughts as they come, yes, noticing feelings as they arise, but also curious about what happens in the body.

Often, what happens in the body is fairly subtle, so it may feel like nothing is happening. Or it may feel like your attention is highjacked by tension or aches. And it’s OK. It’s not going to last more than 15 minutes. So, relax and enjoy the show! Notice where your attention gets pulled, and gently come back to the pause, and to what is happening in your body.


Meditation

Set an alarm for 15 minutes (or the time that your group would prefer).


Connection (after the alarm)

Now, we’re taking turns sharing what it was like to meditate.

Prompt # 1: What was it like for you to meditate?

As we share our experiences, we do so in a meditative mode. We speak slowly and err on the side of using fewer words rather than too many. A lot of what there is to say might be left unsaid, and it’s OK. The point of the practice is to gently open the door, not open the floodgates.

It may be that what you experienced is pretty vague, and it’s tempting to say “nothing much happened.” I encourage you to embrace the vagueness. Just say: “ there was something I can’t quite put my finger on”  and you might just stop with that. Or, as you say it and pause, it is possible that something more comes up. For instance: “it was like something was churning in my stomach, a little bit, not too strong… not quite churning, but something like that.” It doesn’t have to make logical sense.

So, it’s totally okay to share something that is not quite formed.

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Now, after people have shared on Prompt # 1, we introduce Prompt # 2. 

Prompt # 2: What was it like for you now? What is it like to hear what other(s) have shared?

And you take turns sharing in the same meditative way, slow and thoughtful.


What does it feel like?

In this one-minute video, Hilary Bradbury describes what a moment of Meditation & Connection feels like.


Gently transitioning away from the space of meditative connection

If this is the first time you’re doing this with a friend or a small group, it’s a good idea to plan on having a little time to talk a bit about the experience, and about possibly doing it again, maybe regularly. 

In any case, you make a gentle transition from leaving this very connected space, inner connection and interconnection, to go back into ordinary reality. An abrupt ending would be jarring. Give time for goodbyes.

My suggestion is to have a short pause, and each person comes up with a “bookmark” for that experience, a word or two, or a sensation, or an image, that comes up as you pause. You share it, and there’s a little bit of you left with the group. And something to carry with you, into the rest of your life.


You can download a PDF of this article

Try it with a friend, or a small group of friends. And let me know about your experience through the feedback form.