{"id":7721,"date":"2018-09-01T09:00:24","date_gmt":"2018-09-01T13:00:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/pausefully.com\/?p=7721"},"modified":"2022-05-28T12:21:32","modified_gmt":"2022-05-28T16:21:32","slug":"foxcroft","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/foxcroft\/","title":{"rendered":"Rob Foxcroft on listening"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>In this conversation, we uncover some of the many layers of listening, inspired on Rob&#8217;s new book. In addition to the video below, there is also a <a href=\"https:\/\/activepause.com\/zug\/transcripts\/Foxcroft-2018-11.pdf\">printable PDF transcript<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"video-responsive\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/286717555\" width=\"600\" height=\"450\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>What about listening? Here are three ways to think about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First:<br>\nHow any religion has a boundary. There is an \u2018<em>us\u2019<\/em>and a \u2018<em>them\u2019. <\/em>And listening is a bigger thing than religion. Listening has no boundary. Whoever we meet shows us a new world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Second:<br>\nHow listening makes it possible not to be missionary. I don\u2019t have to say, \u2018<em>Here I am. You can learn from me.\u2019 <\/em>I feel squeamish when I say that. I feel fine when I say, \u2018<em>Here you are. I can learn from you.\u2019 <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Finally:<br>\nHow I want two things. I want to follow the natural line, the line of your thoughts and feelings. I say:<br>\n<em>We have to approach the natural line with respect always, even with reverence. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And I want to be meditative, to approach the hidden, the place where silence falls; to come close to the gates of dawn, where new light may break over the horizon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So there\u2019s a conflict inherent in the practice of listening. Wanting the speaker to wait upon the unknown has a tendency to corrupt being faithful to the natural line. It\u2019s a happy thing when the two come together:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>When you feel heard a silence falls.<br>\n<\/em><em>In that silence more may come.<br>\n<\/em><em>Often it is something deeper: you can feel it<br>\n<\/em><em>Just now forming at the edge of being. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Who is Rob Foxcroft? &#8220;I\u2019ve been a classical musician all my life and have been teaching piano-playing for many years. Almost from the beginning I found that listening to other people did more for my life than anything else could do. In March 1988 I went to Chicago to learn focusing-and-listening from Gene Gendlin. Later I studied the person-centered approach with Brian Thorne. I write poems and essays. I used to build drystone walls and have loved creating a garden. I like to be in the hills, by the sea or quietly at home with my family.&nbsp;I recently brought out a book about empathy, self-empathy and the act of listening. It is called: <em>Feeling Heard, Hearing Others.<\/em>&#8221; See <a href=\"http:\/\/robfoxcroft.com\/book\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">website\/book<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n<div class=\"powerpress_player\" id=\"powerpress_player_8549\"><!--[if lt IE 9]><script>document.createElement('audio');<\/script><![endif]-->\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-7721-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/activepause.com\/zug\/podcast\/Foxcroft-2018-09.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/activepause.com\/zug\/podcast\/Foxcroft-2018-09.mp3\">https:\/\/activepause.com\/zug\/podcast\/Foxcroft-2018-09.mp3<\/a><\/audio><\/div><p class=\"powerpress_links powerpress_links_mp3\" style=\"margin-bottom: 1px !important;\">Podcast: <a href=\"https:\/\/activepause.com\/zug\/podcast\/Foxcroft-2018-09.mp3\" class=\"powerpress_link_d\" title=\"Download\" rel=\"nofollow\" download=\"Foxcroft-2018-09.mp3\">Download<\/a> (27.0MB) <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Published September 2018.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":9114,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[254],"tags":[290],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7721"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7721"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7721\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9114"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7721"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7721"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7721"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}