{"id":13026,"date":"2001-01-01T08:50:38","date_gmt":"2001-01-01T13:50:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/?p=13026"},"modified":"2023-09-11T11:39:02","modified_gmt":"2023-09-11T15:39:02","slug":"proactive-reactive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/activepause.com\/proactive-reactive\/","title":{"rendered":"Proactive vs reactive thinking"},"content":{"rendered":"
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What does it mean to be proactive, as opposed to reactive? And how can we do it? This is what this article is about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The word \u201creactive\u201d implies that you don\u2019t have the initiative. You let the events set the agenda. You\u2019re tossed and turned, so to speak, by the tides of life. Each new wave catches you by surprise. Huffing and puffing, you scramble to react to it in order to just stay afloat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In contrast, the image we associate with \u201cproactivity\u201d is one of grace under stress. To stay with the previous analogy, let\u2019s say you\u2019re in choppy waters. Now, you look more at ease. It\u2019s not just that you anticipate the waves. You\u2019re in tune with them. You\u2019re not desperately trying to escape them; you\u2019re dancing with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It would be great to dance with the rhythm of life, using the ebb and flow of events as a source of energy. But is this only possible to those people who are endowed with a proactive attitude (or, maybe, a \u201cproactive gene\u201d)?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I believe that being proactive is not a mysterious quality that we have, or don\u2019t have. It is a way of dealing with things, that we can develop and strengthen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What, then, is this skill?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a nutshell, being proactive is the same thing as being reactive. The only difference is: you do the reacting ahead of time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s go back to the example of the two swimmers on the choppy seas. The difference between them is that the proactive swimmer anticipates that there will be waves, whereas the reactive one is painfully surprised by each wave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The difference is one of perspective. The proactive swimmer sees the big picture: each wave is not an isolated incident but is part of a pattern. While there is stress in dealing with difficult circumstances, there is a consistency and a logic to the environment. There\u2019s a degree of predictability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With this bigger picture in mind, the proactive swimmer is able to adapt to the ups and downs. As he does so, he \u201clearns\u201d the patterns of the waves from inside out, so that his reactions become more and more spontaneous, more and more in tune with the rhythm of the waves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, being proactive means being able to anticipate what the future will be, and to react accordingly before it actually happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is it that prevents the reactive swimmer from doing so? It could be a lack of information. There are plenty of events in life that we simply cannot predict. It could also be a lack of intelligence: some people are better than others at thinking in terms of patterns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But let\u2019s assume, for the moment, that our two swimmers have both the same levels of information and intelligence. Then, the difference between them would simply be that the proactive swimmer has enough energy to take in the available information and adapt to it. In contrast, the reactive swimmer is exhausted and overwhelmed (\u201cSomebody get me out of here, please!\u201d).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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What does this metaphor have to do with understanding how you can be more proactive in your life? Three things:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

ONE: To be proactive, what you have to do is ask yourself what is likely to happen, and react to it before it happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

TWO: It takes energy to rise above the difficulties of the moment, to see the big picture and to make the changes you need to make.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

THREE: Sometimes, you may not have that energy. At such times, it serves no purpose to berate yourself for being weak. Think of your \u201creactivity\u201d as a symptom instead of a failure. You need a break. Take it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s imagine that our exhausted swimmer finds a raft. From this stable vantage point, wouldn\u2019t he be better able to see the big picture? After some rest, wouldn\u2019t he be better able to deal with the pattern of the waves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, the most proactive thing you can do is take a break. Use this \u201cTime Out\u201d to refocus on what you\u2019re doing and how you\u2019re doing it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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