Why is it so hard to do such a simple thing as taking a pause to be mindful? It really helps to understand the obstacles, so we can be responsive rather than reactive to the challenges of life. Hint: When we have trouble doing something simple, chances are it might be a protective mechanism against a perceived threat.
In case this all feels a little abstract to you, here is a concrete example. This 30-send video shows why, for some of us, “listening” has a bad connotation. It’s good to understand why, and to see how things can be different.
It’s not so much about “listening” as it is about the nature of the relationship:
– It doesn’t feel good to be forced to listen.
– It feels really good to feel the deep connection that comes from listening to somebody we want to listen to.
Something similar happens when we try to be more mindful, i.e. to listen more to our inner sense. It is good to have the intention, but it is generally counterproductive to force ourselves to do so. It takes a sense of allowing, a sense of curiosity, to progressively discover how deeply satisfying it is to be in touch our inner sense of who we are. Just as it is ultimately deeply satisfying to feel connected with other people in an atmosphere of mutual respect.